Being 31 I’m old enough now to realise the value of female relationships. There’s something a bit magic and a bit secret about good ones. Growing up I had one friend, we’re still friends (but have been for so long she’s just now a part of the family) She taught me a lot. We did all the stuff you’re meant to do with a best friend and she never let me down. If I need her she’s there, she will be as long as we are.
She taught me a butt ton of stuff.
How to drink then recover quickly.
How to laugh uncontrollably.
How to smoke.
The best places to find lipstick.
How to love someone unconditionally who’s not directly a family member.
How to do halloween.
How to laugh at myself.
And how to trust.
Now I’m a big grown up girl and I get to choose all sorts of kick ass woman to be in or out of my life. I’ve learned the hard way people can be users and selfish and not present. But I’ve also learned that so can I. I’ve learned this by being pulled up about it by my actual girl gang. These woman don’t let me get away with shit. They will listen to me when I’m sad, rejoice with me when I’m happy and tell me if my outfit makes me look like a jacket potato. They care if it’s my birthday, they find me obscure bits of film, they challenge the way I carve my way in the world and cheer me on. And listen to my utter bullshit.
Because of them I’m a better mum a better person. I’m more aware of my feelings. I’m learning to say no and be unapologetic and like myself. And it’s large and in part because of them. Each of them are brilliant people. They have overcome obstacles I couldn’t even begin to imagine coping with. They are fierce and feminist and beautiful. And my friendships are my self care . They are my mentors my allies And my life is richer and better for having them and all of thier multicoloured, strong, clever, kind and wise ways in it.
(Photo credit Sarah Andersen)
Nurture your friendships, pour your heart and soul into the woman worth having in your life. And be the sort of one that they want in thiers.
My mates taught me that 😉